It’s 12:06am. Technically, this counts as today’s blog post. I’m also feeling very inspired to write, so here I am.
There’s a concept I’ve been trying to familiarize myself with recently and one I’ve come across in therapy. It’s to “make space” for a feeling or thought. Taking in that thought or emotion and acknowledging that you’re experiencing. Generally, accepting that it’s okay to feel that way.
Tonight I kind of failed at making space for some negative emotions, then I got swallowed up by them. I started feeling upset that I was upset in the first place. That didn’t give me a chance to accept that it’s okay to be upset. Instead, I got frustrated with myself for feeling something that’s totally normal. I have to remind myself it’s okay to not be in a positive state of being all of the time.
If I had given myself the space to be upset, process those feelings, and accept them then I would have returned to my normal state of being with less shame. Because that’s what I was doing. I was shaming myself for feeling a certain way.
I would have never shamed a friend for feeling that way. It’s completely unjustified to make myself feel bad for experiencing a totally normal feeling.
I’ll try to remember to be kinder to myself. Message me if this makes sense to you and if you wanna process the concept of “making space” together.