I was re-reading my post about questions I have for myself and I realized that I have one more question.
What do I like?
I feel like I can break that down even more.
What do I accept? What do I allow? What do I trust? What do I agree to?
What do I want to like? / What do I actually like?
These questions sound like the stepping stones to understanding what my values are.
I won’t ever be able to give an all encompassing answer to these questions. I’ll constantly confront new situations that will push me to change those lists.
That makes me wonder if I should start with what I value and work from there. If I value honesty, then it’ll be easier for me to realize whether I’ll like (or dislike) a more complex situation with that building block. That feels like a gross oversimplification exactly of how complex life is though.
At least it’s a start!
So here it goes. What are my values? Well, during a therapy session a while ago I completed a worksheet and felt pretty surprised by the results but I can’t remember them. I googled “values worksheet” and found a ton online.
I found this quote on therapistaid.com
When a person fails to live in accordance with their values, they will often feel unsatisfied. For example, someone who values their family very highly, yet spends little time with them, is unlikely to feel content.
It hits home. This is a huge reason behind me blogging and dedicating time to explore myself. I want to understand what my values are so that I can make sure the things I’m dedicating time to in my life are actually bringing me happiness.
I picked this worksheet.
Y’all. This is hard. I gave myself 45 minutes to write this post and go through the exercise publicly, but I underestimated two things:
- The amount of time it takes to discover what your “ideals” area. You have to sort through a lot of preconceptions to decide whether that’s your ideal or if it’s just what you’re used.
- How difficult it is to do this publicly. It feels weird to rate how important my family is to me when I know my mom reads my blog. Or to rate how important my career is when this could be discovered by a future employer in 10 years.
I’m going to do the worksheet on my own and write about this privately. Then I’ll share my overall findings (or what I’m comfortable sharing). ☺
They also have discussion questions which I’ll try to write out my answers to. It would be stellar if anyone reading this wants to fill out that worksheet then chat about what we find.